this talk: is about adapting your mindset to manifest change - with Wendy O'Beirne
I was 32 years old and had the overwhelming niggling feeling I wasn’t doing what I really wanted to do with my life. I had spent way too long worrying about every decision, talking myself out of everything and distracting myself by trying to accept this is just the way it is.
I then tried to convince myself that it was probably too late, I’m too old to change and any other excuse I could think up.
On reflection, I used to compare my life to some outdated fairytale and self imposed rules I thought I had to live by. I constantly felt like I was failing. Buying every book, starting every course, really intending to get “around to it” but never finishing (or even starting sometimes) anything. I’m also VERY thin skinned so any criticism could stop me straight away or prevent me from actually trying anything. I wasn’t conventional. I was single in my 30’s for 5 years. I then stepped off of the ladder and sold my home to go into rented. I wasn’t having babies. In fact, I was breaking every so called rule in the book.
I always felt a little intimidated by a lot of life, which left me feeling inadequate. I relied on alcohol in social situations to make me feel braver (note: this never quite went as well as I thought it would!). In day-to-day life I would either stay quiet or I would place myself firmly behind the loudest person in the room and behave like them. I was also a shopaholic. I purchased something every single day. Realising all this "stuff" wasn't making things any better I admitted I was a bit lost. I overthought EVERYTHING and could easily create a hundred negative scenarios in my mind.
I was giving way too much focus to what people would think of me and I cared more about what they might say than I did about me living a life that I might just love. So I decided it was finally time to change that.
I’ve discovered that the stories I tell myself are more important than anything else I might say out loud. That the small repetitive steps I take, the ones that I barely notice, hold the completion magic.
It all started with a decision to start a regular journal practice, which ended up with me creating my first journal. I believed, prior to that, journalling was for other people and it certainly wasn’t for people like me. Through writing I started to remember what it was I had dreamt of doing in life. I stopped comparing myself to everyone else and people pleasing. More than that, I read every book, took every course, went on every workshop and absorbed as much knowledge as I could about mindset, change, wellness, meditation and self care. I started taking action and following through - ticking off mini-wins at first and then the significant achievements followed. Self development had started off as a way for me personally to move forward. Then, I found I was sitting exams and taking it all that bit further. I spent years learning, practising, adjusting and then finally finding my niche. I wanted to help people change their story and start seeing things through. People who felt just like I did.
I’m well known for my rituals! You will find me burning old stories, working with the cycle of the moon, curiously studying astrology and working with crystals and angel/oracle cards. I am aligned with myself at last and with that came my alignment with the Universe, my faith in something bigger. I have created such a solid practice that my foundations feel rooted and strong. My trust has given me strength to take chances and make leaps I would never have considered before. From my home life, my work life and new friendships I have finally found a method to create my own magic!
Once I accepted I COULD change my story, I stopped holding myself back and I started doing.